Kurs: -- English - Intermediate Materijali vezani uz ovu lekciju: - Test online dating - Test online dating - Online Dating (PDF dokument) Stepping into the world of online dating, but concerned about your safety? Here are some helpful ideas that will give you a sense of comfort when meeting your date for the first time. Try these to maintain your safety: 1. Meet when you're ready. A great thing about online dating is that you can take your time. You can learn about people at your own pace, and consider whether they appeal to you or not. If you don't like the person you can always cancel your date. It isn't obligatory to meet the person just because you are talking to him/her! 2. Meet in a public place. OK, you may be getting bored seeing this piece of advice everywhere you look. But consider this, if it is becoming a no-brainer for most people it must be really good advice. You save yourself a lot of worry and potentially dangerous situations if you simply meet in a public place filled with other people. Just think: who would EVER go a deserted place with a stranger?! 3. Be familiar with the area you choose. You will want to be able to arrive and leave on your own safely and comfortably. Choose a place you know well, and that has a good reputation. Don't go for a less popular, deserted type of establishment. Some suburbs are out of question! If you have travelled out of town to meet your date ( and I think there is no need to do that, it doesn't sound quite safe) choose a meeting place that is well known to the qualified staff in your hotel and is easily accessible by public transportation. 4. Don't choose one of your own regular hang outs. If you walk in and there are many people there who know you, this can make your date feel very uncomfortable. You also will jeopardize your privacy. In addition, if you decide not to pursue the relationship, it is possible that your date will start coming to this establishment which can be awkward for you. The person can become obsessive or aggressive, you never know. 5. Do not travel together. Meeting in a public place, also means that you don't get into a car with this new person on the first date, and you do not reveal where you live. Be prepared to provide all of your own transportation. If necessary call a friend or taxi. If your date is worth pursuing, he will understand and respect you decision to maintain separate travel. 6. Make your own arrangements. This is especially valuable if you are travelling to another city to meet your online date. It is up to you to make your own hotel and travel arrangements. And, make sure you are playing an active and conscious part in planning where you will meet.
7. Make sure someone knows about your date. Give a friend or relative all of the details about the date. You want to make sure someone else has the name of the person you are meeting, the location, the time of the date and the time you are expected to be home. You may even want to call your friend periodically throughout the evening to check in and make sure you are alright. You never know who you are going to meet, and you will feel much better when somebody is informed about where you are. 8. Take your cell phone. It is always good to have a phone for emergencies, and in this case, it will be really smart if you have someone call you at a pre-determined time to check on you. Consider having a code word for them to know that you need help. It's a good idea to use a person's name. If you choose the name Anastasia and then ask your friend, "how is Anastasia," your friend will immediately know that you need help. 9. Don't drink too much. Drinking can interfere in your ability to make safe decisions and be able to take care of yourself. 10. Leave if you feel uncomfortable. If something doesn't feel right, do not hesitate to cut the evening short. Make sure you are in a safe place to exit and head toward your car. If not, ask for help from a manager who can help assure your safety. 11. Watch for strange behaviour. As you progress to the 2nd and 3rd date, if your partner adapts some odd behaviour like wanting to meet far from home or has strange rules about contact, use your good sense, and end it.
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